Would you change your hair's current state to please your significant other?
(i.e Would you go natural or relax just for them?)
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August 24, 2009 at 1:54 PM
I feel there is nothing wrong with change but especially if it spices up the relationship..BUT I also hope that your partner loves you for you and just suggests the change not make it mandatory. If they dont like you for u, u might to need rethink why this person is with u - do they look at you as an accessory or their foundation...Also if you just put on a wig or got weave that is very versitile but GETTING A PERM...hmmm very extreme and changes the whole texture of your hair. This is a great question and needs alot of thought. I would personally ask for a compromise and try the wig first if I even go that far lol!
August 24, 2009 at 2:04 PM
After a few years of marriage i cut out my perm, the BC, wore a short natural for a decade. Last fall my husband asked if i would consider growing out my hair. at first i squared my shoulders, gave him the "sista-head" you know how we do..and was ready to say "love me as i am" or "what's your problem" LOL!!!.. but my spirit spoke and said.. "Sacrifice of Love" so i did it for him out of love, it cost me nothing (well you know thats not true) SO.. yes i did it for love, it makes him happy and that makes me happy.. he likes to run his hands thru my hair, he likes to rub in when i asleep.. so i give him that.. Yes YES..putting someone else's desires before your own no matter how trivial they seem is honoring the "sacrifice of love" he's a black man after all..and no matter how they position it..they love to play in a sisters hair, permed, kinky or curly.. short or long.. braids or knots..
August 24, 2009 at 5:59 PM
It depends on what he's asking for. Some could be too extreme(wanting to be natural and being told to perm it when u could easily press it out) or some are just as simple like anonymous said above.
Honestly you are not your hair!
August 24, 2009 at 9:34 PM
Earlier on in our relationship I cut my hair for him. He likes short hair and while my hair was long and thick then, I thought it was a nice "present."
Fast forward, we're here and I'm growing my hair out, even wearing weaves. He appreciated what I did for him and he loves what I'm doing for myself.
Heck, if I want to spice things up again I can always wear a short wig/ weave. We've been married for 8 years (together for 10), I would consider possibilities.
August 24, 2009 at 9:45 PM
No. My hair, my head. My mother nor father nor significant other can tell me how to wear it. Luckily my parents don't care and my boyfriend isn't adamant.
August 25, 2009 at 9:41 AM
I had a similar discussion with my honey recently. He's not feeling the natural too tough (mostly twist-outs) so I began wearing braids and flat twists and he loves it! We both miss the straight hair so I'll do a weave when the weather breaks. I think it's all about compromise.
August 25, 2009 at 2:50 PM
No, I have been natural since 1999, and that's not changing. It's a conversation I have learned to have early on, because I don't want him to expect to get in and try to coax me into a relaxer...not happening!
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